“The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.”
Michelangelo
I was asked this question recently: Why should I care about working on myself?
I was a little suprised by the question, I wanted to ask ‘Why WOULDN”T you be interested?’
Every successful, self actualized person of merit I have ever met or studied has first and formost worked on themselves.
An example in my own life: I’m a father of 2 very precious, sensitive, beautiful, rambunctious boys. Alexander just turned 5, and his little brother is about to turn 3.
Now these guys both have radically different personalities. One is more willing to jump into life, adventurous, and wanting to get along, the other is more reserved, a little more provocative, can be extermely stubborn, and sometime has raging fits. 
I love them both so incredibly much and yet I get my butt kicked daily! I think of myself as someone who has done alot of work on myself, but there are days when I want to strangle them…
I can tell you that if I had had kids 20 years ago, then I’d probably have been the kind of father that no one would want. I’m glad I waited! I now have goals around what kind of father, husband, and person I want to be, and work toward that everyday.
I feel that everyday I grow by leaps and bounds, and this is by design. Yet still I often fail at being the person I want to be. I occasionally loose my temper and yell at them, snap at the littlest thing…
Now even though I fail, I do my best to pick up where I was and move ahead, apologize if needed(often) and do my best to stay out of drama, out of ‘poor me syndrome’, and do my best to not beat myself up about it.
One of my growth exercises when I notice myself getting angry, or reviewing a old lame-O memories of fear, scarcity, anger is to go inside, Tell myself: ‘I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, and thank you!’
Now I didn’t make this up myself-I’m not that smart 
I stole it from a process called Hooponopono. it’s a hawaiian healing process, that basically states EVERYTHING that comes into my experience I’m responsible for, and just the act of witnessing something(even something that happens to someone else) that somehow I have a RESPONSE-ABILITY toward it. So by cleaning it up out of my own consciousness then it in turn is cleansed in the other person.
I constantly work to consciously look at myself, to analyze what I’m feeling and why, and how to get different results if they weren’t the ones I was looking for. So when I’m starting to get flustered with my boys, and I am able to remember to do the hooponopono process on myself, then things go much smoother, they don’t argue with each other as much and the end result is that I feel better and am more able to focus on being the peson I strive to be. I reach the center of myself and am able to be grounded in peace.
Now if you don’t have goals, or desire to be better, to live a happier, more fulfilled life then I say you’re probably not going anywhere. You’re probably not very happy or successful either.
Even the most successful and happy people I know are always striving, always wanting things to be better, to have greater successes, I do, and everyone I’ve ever met does too(but some aren’t willing to take action and I believe somehow LIKE where they are).
If you’re unhappy use it as a motivator. A motivator into a better life-just as the successful people do. You know that’s the great thing about contrast, the things that suck in your life, is that not only do you have the ability to change them, but they can drive you to great heights-if you let them-if you decide to put them in the proper light and think about them in a positive manner.
There is no stopping point to striving for a better life. If it’s not getting better everyday then you’re probably regressing, going backward in life. There is only forward or backwards as the world is constantly moving.
The universe wants you to LIVE, to CREATE, to GROW in everyway and to find your life’s purpose and expression.
It’s been said by many people that you’re a unique person, nobody like you in the whole world. Nobody thinks, looks, feels, or does things exactly like you. Isn’t that great?
Now I’m a great believer of taking action and going for what you want. Who cares if you fail? The secret is nobody will really care one way or the other, and if they do then that’s none of your business. Another secret is you should hope to fail, because every failure means you’re that much closer to success(as long a you learn from your failures).
I want to share with you some of the steps I utilize in my life to achieve success.
First have gratitude for every thing and every moment, then ask yourself what it is you want in all areas of your life, next set goals to attain them, next figure out the action steps that will get you there and implement them, then start the whole process over again then review and take action daily.
One other thing I want to point out is to watch your thoughts because thoughts become things, those things become your actions, which create your habits and results, so think positive thoughts. Thoughts that start with: I can, I will, That’s great because, I’m awesome, Your wonderful, whatever, so long as it pumps you up and makes you feel great.
That’s it. It truly is simple if you let it be.
To Your Aabundance and Prosperity, Jonathan
